Don’t Lose Youself.

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I’ve always had trouble finding the right guy. I tend to chose guys who don’t have good intentions. It’s not that I try to find these guys, but some how I meet a lot.

I think my problem is..I like attention. I feel good when I get compliments..who doesn’t? Sometimes I end up falling in to a trap. The guys I’ve met have only wanted one thing from me.

Recently, I met a guy. He seemed nice and he was cute. We started talking. He gave me compliments and said I had a nice personality. I thought that meant he kind of liked me.

Turns out..he just wanted to have sex with me. The more we talked..the more that became clear.

I tried to ask him, if we would ever be a couple, or if we would ever have something real. He said no. I was hurt. Very hurt. I was starting to like a guy who had no intentions of liking me.

He soon straight out told me..he just wanted sex. He didn’t want to have a relationship. To him..I was annoying. He told me I was super annoying, even though..previously he told me I wasn’t. Was everything he said a lie? Or did he change his opinion on me because I wouldn’t give him what he truly wanted? I don’t think I’ll ever find that out. We don’t talk anymore.

Honestly..I was kind of heartbroken. I felt as if I had done something wrong. Something was wrong with me.

It’s not me. It’s not my fault. I think a lot of girls struggle with the fact that some guys put pressure on them to do what the guy wants.

If you’re going through a similar experience. It is not you! You aren’t to blame for them not liking you. If you don’t want to share your body with them, then that doesn’t mean anything. It’s your body, not theirs. Don’t let them trick you.

Of course, it hurts. It makes you think that you aren’t enough. It makes you think something is wrong with you, when all of a sudden they don’t want anything to do with you anymore.

I think we just have to remind ourselves, that we are worthy. We don’t need validation from anyone. We don’t need attention from the wrong people. Love yourself! Stay true to yourself!

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Lose The Lover, Not Yourself.

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Sometimes we change ourselves to try to be better. Be someone we aren’t.

Sometimes we change ourselves to impress people. I’ve done this. I’ve changed the way I dress, the way I act, and my hairstyles. This doesn’t help anything. You should always stay true to yourself.

Don’t lose yourself trying to be someone you just aren’t. Don’t lose your morals or values over some guy.

Sometimes we feel the need to impress certain guys or we won’t be good enough for them. You are good enough! You’re good enough for anyone. If they don’t see it, that’s their problem.

It’s better to lose the guy than to lose yourself trying to be someone you’re not.

When we change ourselves, we think they will like us better. Maybe we just look at the wrong guys. Guys who really like you, won’t care about how you dress. They won’t ask you to go against your morals and values. They will like you for you.

Don’t get discouraged if you haven’t found your person yet. You’ll find someone, just don’t try to change yourself to speed up the process.

Just remember, you are worthy!

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I am not an object.

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I’m not an object, but I get treated like one. I’m not my personality, I’m not my brain. I’m a toy.

At least, that’s what these guys think. They think I’m just some toy they can pick up and play with.

Most guys that I have talked to only want me for one thing. Sex. They don’t care about me. I feel like a lot of girls deal with this. Most guys just don’t care how we feel, they just care about feeling us…if you know what I mean.

It’s sad. Honestly, why bother trying to be smart or have a great personality for a guy, if guys don’t even look at that.

I’ve only been treated like I’m walking boobs. It’s so irritating. I’m not a butt. I’m a human being.

I want to be looked at for my traits not my boobs.

I’ve thought about just giving it up completely. Not even trying to impress a guy with my smarts. I’m not planning on giving them what they want, but I’m just done trying to be smart for them.

I mean…I’m so much more than what these guys see. If you struggle with this too. Well, you’re more as well! Don’t give in to trying to be sexy for guys.

Just work on yourself! Be smart for you. Be funny for you. Be kind for you!

One day when a guy sees you for you, then it will be a great day. In the meantime, don’t get discouraged.

Live for you.

Not some guy who wants to just have sex and leave.

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Choosing The Right Type Of Guy.

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Sometimes it’s hard to know what we’re looking for in a guy. Sometimes we know exactly what we want.

When we don’t know…it might be because we thought we were looking at the right guys, but in reality we weren’t.

Sometimes we go for the “bad boy” or the “fun guy” we might look at these types of guys when we think we can change them. We can turn them into the guy we want them to be. We see their looks and their flirty personality, and we think we really like them.

I’ve been down this path before. Looking at bad boys. I thought they were more fun. I didn’t look for a “Nerdy Nathan” or a “Steady Steven” yes, I made those up 🙂 Anyway, I didn’t look for guys who would treat me amazing. I looked at guys who wanted to play a game.

Sometimes we miss opportunities. We don’t see the Nerdy Nathan. We miss out on someone who really liked us for us. Our personality not how good we could be in bed.

I’m not saying nerds are great. I’m not saying you should only go for nerdy guys. I am saying though, that most likely, these will be the types of guys you can settle down with. You could have a future with.

While ” Bad Boy Brandon” is flirting with every girl on the planet. “Steady Steven” is flirting with every study sheet he can find. Studying in school to better themselves. The guys that go through school stealing other answers from people…it’s not cute.

It’s rare when you can change the bad boy. Honestly it only happens in books or movies. So maybe instead of looking for a bad boy, maybe try looking at the guy who gets shy around you. A guy that although their shy…they’ll be the first in line to stand up for you.

It’s just something to think about.

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Should I Back Off?

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It’s always kinda tricky to know when you should “back off” or move on.

Sometimes we just don’t want to. We don’t want to give up on someone that’s supposed to be the person we want to be with. We have an idea of how we want the relationship to work out, but when it doesn’t…it’s not fun.

How do we know when to stop reaching out to them?

I’m not sure, I have a hard time with this one.

When someone shows no interest or they tell you they don’t like you…sometimes we want to try and change their mind. Not necessarily force them to like us, but maybe we push a little too hard.

I get attached very quickly, it’s not my best trait. If I like you and we talk, I might get really “pushy” I just think I’m showing how much I like this person, but they think I’m being pushy…which ends up pushing them away.

I’ve pushed some people away. Looking back, they weren’t good for me anyway, but they told me I was too pushy.

I get frustrated. I just don’t know when I’m being “too much” I try to be friendly, but I guess that comes off as flirty? I guess I’m just hard to read? Guys don’t know what I mean? I don’t know.

I often get ignored by guys I try to talk to. It’s kinda embarrassing to share, but I want this blog to be honest. When I get ignored..I guess somewhere in my mind I know that it means they don’t want to talk, but on the other hand…it makes me want to figure out why they don’t want to talk.

When I get ignored…I don’t know what I did wrong. I guess I was just too pushy.

I don’t think I’m pushy with these guys, I just think they misinterpret my intentions.

Either way…I’m not going to change myself to try and be someone they would like better.

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Trying Too Hard.

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I feel like in relationships, sometimes only one person shows effort. Only one person tries to keep the relationship going.

I’ve struggled with being the only person who tries in a relationship. I just try to keep conversations going, and keep showing my interest. Most of the guys I’ve liked, just think I’m trying too hard.

What is trying too hard?

I just want the person I like to know that I like them. I try to stay in touch, but that means I’m trying too hard?

It’s like I can never win with these guys. If I don’t try at all, we don’t ever talk. If I try more, then I’m trying too hard.

I think I might just be picking guys that don’t show effort with anyone. It can’t just be me, right? Am I the problem? Do I try too hard?

I’ve yet to find a guy who puts in the same amount of effort as me. Honestly, it’s so annoying. Why do I have to be the only one who tries?

Sometimes I think a guy is cute, and I want to say hey. Not necessarily to be in a relationship! Yes, I think you’re cute, but that doesn’t mean I’m trying to pursue you. Most of the time I just want a friend, and if it happens to be a guy….that shouldn’t mean anything more than what it is. A guy friend.

I think guys just assume that I want to be in a relationship just because I like talking to them. When in reality, I just like talking. I like texting when I don’t have anything to do. I like seeing how people are doing, but that apparently means I’m trying too hard.

You might be thinking “you’re talking to the wrong guys” well, that might be true. I think I just need to stop trying at all. Maybe these guys aren’t worth my time. If I stop trying completely, maybe they will reach out to me?

I’ll just keep to myself and if they reach out to me…I may or may not respond.

Does that work? I’ve been told to just let the guy come to you…it’s never worked for me, but maybe I’ll try again.

I’ll let you know what happens!

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My Romantic Life?

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I’ve always loved the idea of love. The idea of all the romance behind it.

I dream of finding the perfect guy for me. A guy that will truly love me.

I’m still young, I have some time. I worry that I won’t find anyone. I feel like if I don’t find someone now, I never will. Very silly, very irrational…I know. I just hope I’ll find that special someone.

Maybe my problem is that I search for love. I’m the one who always tries to find someone that could be “the one” Well, I don’t necessarily go around hunting down guys, but when I do meet a guy, it does cross my mind “will they like me?”

I haven’t had good experiences with guys. I’ve now had so many bad experiences that I am finally starting to learn. Of course every time something went wrong I learned. I just mean that I’m finally starting to watch out for warning signs instead of creating a wish.

That’s another problem of mine. I wish. I make up ideas in my head of how this certain guy should be. It never fails to let me down. Maybe my expectations are too high? I’m not just looking for the “perfect” looks, but I do expect a nice personality. I just think the reality is that most guys my age…don’t even know what they want.

Guys my age…are just looking for hook ups, or just looking for something kinda fun. Not all guys my age, but I haven’t found any guys my age that want to settle down and be in a healthy relationship.

Maybe guys just don’t like me? I’ve thought about this before. I’ve tried to test it out by changing the way I text or act, or change my hair and makeup.

I have tried so many different ways to be “attractive”

I’ve learned, that it’s just better to be you. If a guy doesn’t like you for you, then they aren’t worth your time. I just have trouble taking my own advice.

I don’t know what the problem is, but I feel like I attract only the wrong guys. If a guy likes me…from my experience, they aren’t a good guy. If a guy is interested in me. It seems like every time they aren’t good guys. I don’t go looking for the wrong kind of guy, it just happens like this. I don’t know why.

Maybe one day I’ll find someone. Maybe it’s just not the right time in my life. Like I said, I am young, so maybe I just need to work on myself first.

I’ll keep you guys updated!

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